Loving your wife HER way...

• Start and/or end each day by holding hands and praying together with your wife.
• Pray for her every day and make it a point to pray with her when she is troubled.
• Communicate with her instead of talking AT her or shutting her out emotionally.
• Talk to her respectfully without demeaning her or hurting her feelings.
• Compliment her for the giftedness you see in her. Be specific.
• Show interest in her friends and give her time to be with them.
• Do something active together to lift her spirit —even taking a walk hand-in-hand.
• Express to her that you need and value her.
• Show enthusiasm for the things that she’s excited about—let your actions show it.
• Find something that makes you laugh together.
• Put your arms around her when she needs comfort, holding her silently.
• Surprise her by doing something you think she would want done before she asks.
• Try not to make sudden changes without discussing them with her first.
• Show interest in that which she values as important in her life.
• Allow your wife to teach you things without being defensive.
• When you feel you must correct her, be gentle —speak the truth in LOVE.
• Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey)
• Show her that she matters more to you than any one you could be with, that threatens her security in your marriage.
• Be a good listener. Show her you value what she says.
• Plan a mini-honeymoon, where the two of you can spend quality time together.
• Go shopping with her and don’t sigh or look at what time it is even once.
• Take her out to breakfast or make her breakfast (cleaning up afterward).
• Make the time to set specific goals with her to achieve together for each year.
• Give her grace when she offends you and forgive (even as you want to be forgiven).
• Find ways to help her know you are her partner in all areas life.
• Be polite, courteous, and mannerly with her—not taking her for granted.
• Exhibit humility, admit your mistakes, and ask for forgiveness. She’ll appreciate that!
• Defend her to others—especially to your family.
• Don’t belittle her intelligence.
• Scratch her back, rub her feet, or her rub her neck—whatever she’d prefer.
• Get up in the middle of the night (let her stay in bed) to take care of your upset child.
• Be especially helpful when she is not feeling well.
• When she asks how your day went, don’t just say “fine” —actually give her details.
• Thank God for her by name when the two of you are praying together.
• Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
• Don’t embarrass her by arguing with her in front of others.
• Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is important to her.
• Make eye contact when she is talking to you and when you are talking with her.
• Show her that you prefer her to others—give her your attention whenever possible.
• Relate what happened at work or whatever you did apart from her.
• Keep away from anything that gives you physical gratification, other than your wife.
• Be helpful, both before and during the time you have visitors in your home. (If you’re not sure of what to do, ask your wife “What can I do that would help the most?”)
• Brag about her to others, both in front of her and when she is not with you.
• Surprise her from time-to-time with a card and flowers or a little gift.
• Remember to tell her or call her as soon as you know you are going to be late.
• Give her your undivided attention when she wants to talk.
• Guard your tongue from saying “unwholesome words” or down-grading her.
• Refuse to compare her unfavorably with others.
• Encourage her to relax in some way while you clean up after dinner.
• Be an involved partner in helping with the children and spending time together.
• Maintain good grooming habits so you look and smell good. It shows you care.
• Be supportive. Help her to finish her education and goals that are important to her.
• View and treat her as if God put a sign over her that said, “Make me feel special.”
• Run errands without complaining.
• Give her the love gift of being thoughtful and considerate to her relatives.
• Don’t negatively compare her relatives with yours.
• Sit close to her.
• Be verbally supportive and honor her in front of the children.
• Do not making plans without her agreeing with them (unless it’s a surprise).
• Pro-actively do things that makes her feel cherished as a woman and as a wife.
• Keep her trust at all costs. Leave no gray area when it comes to other female relationships, money and your word. (Dave Ramsey)
• Ask for a list of 3 things she’d like done in the home. Priortize to do them ASAP.
• Ask her and then listen to what makes her fearful and insecure (without judging).
• Pray about and act upon what you can do to alleviate those fears.
• Surprise her with a 15 second kiss (with no expectations to go any further).
• Put effort in to keep yourself in good shape so she’s especially proud to be with you..
• Take the time to touch every day—even if it’s only for a minute or two.
• Be polite and kind. (Often we’re kinder to strangers than we are to our spouse.)
• Go out of your way to help her feel valued over everyone else.
• Consider her as your marital partner in how you spend money.
• You dated your wife before marriage, and fell in love. Date her now to STAY in love.
• Be careful to choose your words, especially when angry.
• Show affection for her in front of friends.
• Make sure your children speak to her and treat her in respectful ways.
• Make a point of honoring anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions..
• Hold her close and verbally express your love when she is hurt or discouraged.
• Surprise her by giving her a special gift from time to time.
• Share the responsibilities around the house (without looking for special recognition).
• Don’t tease and belittle her, saying “I was just joking” when she doesn’t find it funny.
• Allow her to express herself freely, without fear of being called illogical or dumb.
• Don’t forget to hold her hand in public like you used to when you dated her.
• Don’t criticize her in front of others—keeping her dignity in tact.
• Don’t focus on the physical features of another woman (It dishonors your wife).
• Be sensitive to her needs—looking for ways to bless her.
• Let her know you want to spend special time with her and the children.
• Fix dinner for her sometimes.
• Be sympathetic when she’s sick—and help her however you can.
• Let her sleep in sometimes and you get the children ready for the day.
• Honor her by not disagreeing with her in front of the children.
• Don’t ignore the small things that bother her and let them build into bigger issues.
• Surprise her by doing some things around the house that she’s wanted done.
• Tell her (and show her) you love her often.
• Call, email or text her when you’re apart so she knows you are thinking of her.
• Express your love and appreciation for her in a love note which you give to her.
• Show her affection without expectation.